There are a lot of reasons why I decided to start this blog. Granted, I’m making no promises about the quality of writing or topics. I’ve never written a real blog before or for a public-ish audience, so this is a “learn by doing” experience! Otter would be so proud.
Overall, I’m going to try to start writing more to help process and record both on paper and on this blog. I’m putting it online for feedback and on the off chance that people will find it interesting. I am purposely not linking it to my original tumblr. I don’t mind if people from my life read it, but I’d like to be somewhat aware of who is reading it. I’m also going to refrain from using my or my partner’s real name and our original blog names to try to encourage that.
Full disclaimer: I am a gender studies major and nerd. I love learning about gender and sexuality and everything that intersects it. However, I am still learning and so get things wrong. This will be a body-positive, sex-positive, neurodiversity positive, trans-, queer-, feminist-, asexual-, genderqueer- positive space. I will not tolerate misogyny, cissexism, heterosexism, racism or any other oppressive –ism. If you see any, call me on it. I will fix it and educate myself. As one of my good friends says, we must call each other on our bullshit. It will also occasionally be not safe for work, I think, but we will see.
On to the fun stuff! Well, to me anyways. :]
I am a queer cisgender lady in an open and deeply committed relationship with a queer demisexual genderqueer human. I refer to them as my significant otter or my otter half a lot, so I’m going to call them Otter in this blog. They have decided that their full alias is Sir Otterwald Esquire (subject to change). They’re my best friend and adorable and capable and clever and I am oh-so- in-love with them. I’ll go by Owl here because I like them so much and they are lovely. Also, my actual journal has a lovely owl embossed on it (a gift from a lovely friend :]). So that makes sense, I suppose. I do what I wannnnt.
Sometimes, it can be a little challenging navigating our relationship due to its many non-hetero-normative aspects and our own challenges. A Queer and Present Danger is going to be a place for me to sort out some of those challenges and write about them and how we construct our relationship to include and accommodate our needs. Woohoo!
My ask is always open for questions or comments or fuzzy animals!
